I am not controlling him, I am setting out the rules if he wishes to stay here. He is a grown man with free will and if he wants to go into a program or detox somewhere else he is welcome to do so. If he insists on staying and getting clean here it needs to be controlled. I am listening to everyones advice and appreciate all the concerns. I know it is comming from a good place and from personal experience. He has made more progress today than I have seen from him in 7 years. He admitted his problem and thats huge. If it becomes more than I can handle we will cross that bridge if we need to. I have a great supportive family who will step in to help. One day at a time!