All of the posts in this thread really hit home for me. My father died last year without ever apologizing for the emotional & psychological abuse he put me through, nor did he ever say anything about allowing his wife to physically abuse me. I didn't attend his funeral, and now some comments are being made that *I* am the problem. I was thinking a lot over the past few days about this forum, and how many of us have problems with our families - they want to act like we should forget about it, and *we* are the ones all screwed up. I haven't been here for a while, so it's amazing to come in here and see this thread. Many of our siblings are sooo worried about "appearances" that they don't want the family baggage let out.
Thanks to everyone that posted on this thread. You are all "on the right track!"