It sounds like all of the lies have just shook the foundations Miller. Now he is in recovery, and the healing is taking place for both of you. This is just my perspective, but in between the lies, there was still truth. The lies were to protect the drug use, and maintain the appearances of someone who was a functional user. The truth is what has kept your family together through this trauma. I think this is a stage of healing that you are going through. Also perhaps, there is some reflection back on yourself for not identifying the lies? A lack of confidence in your ability to now decipher lies if you encountered them? If so, don’t be so hard on yourself. You have learned a lot, grown a lot, and in the end this whole experience will make you a stronger person. Like the therapist said, at some point you will put the pain behind you; it just takes time.