Wicked - thanks. Reading these threads has been helpful, but also daunting. It is nice to think I could have somewhere to type to.
We only got married seven months ago but we've lived together for three years and have known each other for over 10. I really am his family, which makes this so hard. Most of his drinking was secret. Only the last few month have been out of control, but now that my eyes have been opened I can see that something had been wrong for him this whole time and that on many levels I was trying to stop it as it has progressed. Everyone I've told has been floored in shock, though, so I'm not the only one who also believed the image he was projecting.