Dear Wishful, I have an adult son who is currently in early recovery. NOTHING Irritates him more than for me to show any opinion or ask any question about his "program business".
I have learned to keep my mouth zipped!!
Of course, he is now 5 states away and we only talk on the phone. I know it would be more difficult if he were a spouse living in my house.
Personally, I don't get where your counselor is coming from. Is the counselor a recovering alcoholic--does the counselor work an AA program his//herself??
For me, I tend to trust the wisdom of long-recovering addicts the most. Lots of people have taken a course in alcohol counseling---but don't have real-life experience.
I'm just asking.......
dandylion