"I don't think there is anything wrong with that. The fact that he was and is a A may mean in the end that there is a limit to what he can provide but I still don't think it was wrong for me to ask what for what I wanted out of that relationship. I was in it too, not just the A."
You are spot on here, Boon. Unfortunately, an A cannot participate in the give and take that healthy relationships enjoy, mainly because their primary relationship is with alcohol and protecting their addiction. So many of us learn from our A's that to ask for what we want is selfish, so it really makes me smile to see that you understand you were not wrong to voice your needs.
(Thanks, Summerpeach for the paragraph-ed quote!)