I cross posted with ShootingStar and very much agree with what she wrote.
If I am doing something regularly out of obligation it is time to rethink where my motivation is coming from, often it is a sign that I am getting into my codie ways.
For me working in healthcare sometimes what makes me good at my job, also makes it hard for me to determine if I am being codependent or not. I am sure it is similar with other jobs, but nurturing is a big part of the healing professions (and what attracted me to it). Though it often works well at work, I have a tendancy to cross the line in my personal life in that familiar way.
For me it is not about the number of meetings I go to or not, but if it is helping me and others to be there. I needed one thing initially and have different needs now. Writing that brought a tear to my eye....I know what I need and that is enough to determine how I choose to do it.