Lily
As the mother of an addict.....I can only hope that my son (should he ever decide to get into a relationship again) find a woman with courage and boundaries.
I'm sorry that you had such a terrible interaction with D's Mom.....she is also in active addiction......because that's what codependence is........addiction.
Perhaps someday they will both find peace and recovery.....until then.....I hope you find serenity in your own.
gentle hugs
ke