Originally Posted by
EverHopeful721 
I hate to say it, but yes, there's a reason why he doesn't want you to go to Al-Anon meetings.....because he doesn't want you to start working on you and get better, because then you might realize that you don't want to be with him anymore. As you said, the family meeting made you feel stronger, but it also made you angry at him. Well, he's afraid if you get angry enough, or rather, HEALTHY enough, you'll realize that you can do SO MUCH BETTER than him and you'll walk away for good.
This is EXACTLY what my AXBF said to me as soon as I made the decision to start going to CoDA meetings:
"I hope those meetings don't convince you to leave me."
Those meetings have been my absolute saving grace and I wouldn't stop going for anything. They HAVE made me stronger, they have made me more confident in myself, and is one of the cornerstones to my recovery from my addict.
I say, go. Immediately.