Originally Posted by
ruthhoney 
It hurts so much coz I feel like my feelings are being played and I was led on.
Yes, you were. But here's the caveat to all this rejection business when it comes to intimate relationships - the onus is on US. In my case recently, I was played and led on, but after a few tries to clarify intentions and getting more wishy-washy behavior, I let it go. Sure, my feelings are hurt, but I sure as heck ain't waiting around or wasting any more of my time on this asshat.
I also haven't turned down other dates, and have one this weekend that I am looking forward to.
So yes, rejection hurts, but the trick is learning how to let go, how to uphold your own boundaries, and how not to be played for long.
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.