Originally Posted by
sacha 
I can't not go because the relationship is new & 1) I want to spend time with him & because 2) I don't want yet to tell him about my alcohol issues.
Not to be difficult, but yes, you can not go. I so often see people post something that they have to do and it's risky. One thing I had to do in early recovery was to find my voice and say 'No' when it was best for me to not do something.
If you do go, be sure you have a way to leave if you need to. Focus on conversation and enjoying people.