Truth is alcoholism damages greatly. Not just for the user but for those around who felt secure .
Wounds do not heal because we beckon them too...they heal because we treat them properly and with time. As a spouse of a recovering alcoholic I can tell you that though I am healing and our relationship is much better its not a piece of cake ...ah quakes here and there and has moments I consider a dry drunk and sometimes his behavior just reminds me of the past and other times im alone with thoughts or reminders and I become angry or hurt.
We give eachother empathy to our own feelings and allow eachother to grow.
Its not going to be easy but if we get through the tough part of healing individually then our relationship will be a concrete slab stronger thicker and more durable and we feel better because we went through it with as much grace as possible.
Just be sympathetic and work on you. Let his healing be as it is. We must work through feelings to conquer them