I know what you mean about if you look like you are functioning, they don't see how much trouble you are in.
Get a laugh out of this.
My daughter drug me into the doctors shuffling in what are basically pajamas and slippers. And then she ratted me out about everything. Things I would have been too embarrassed to admit to.
I got a stern lecture about forget about pulling myself by my bootstraps and whether I liked it or not, I was going to take these medicines and for the rest of my life and I was to come back because I was to be monitored.
This was a couple of years ago.
And frankly, I am very thankful to her for telling him how I really was.
In other words, I was a lifeless log who wouldn't eat, bathe, didn't sleep but laid in bed all day staring at the wall etc etc