Pretty much the driver behind what is going on in our house, as well.
Many long-term A's do have this or other similar cluster long-term mental disorders.
To get some good specific help and info in this, there is a good info site and forum >>>
Borderline Personality Disorder - Support group for families and relationship partners
I post there as "Somewhere" -- for Somewhere Over The Rainbow.
and a thread on the Mental Health section here >>>
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...er-thread.html