crazybabie

Addiction is progressive it gets worse until one embraces recovery if they ever do. You seem to have strong family support I am thinking the two of you may be relatively young?

Ask yourself and be truthful with yourself what kind of life do you want for your future?
That life can't be obtained with an active addict. I found that attending Al-anon meetings helped me we have no Nar-anon where I live.

I also found that keeping a journal helped me.

Sometimes I think it's to brainwash me to think he is in recovery but he's using. He told me today he took sub-oxen when i wouldn't talk to him after he got kicked out of my house but why would he not tell me that? Especially since I tried to help him get Sub-oxen and he didn't want to take it.

Recovery looks like recovery and using looks like using go with your gut. As for why addicts are manipulative same of those who are co- dependent.
I was very manipulative and didn't see it for what it was until I started my own journey of recovery.