We are what we make of what we have to work with.
Originally Posted by equus
Was that intended to help?
That was the short version. Here is the long one.
All of us drunks have or had reasons to drink, or rather, excuses to drink.
I lost my legs in the war...so I drink.
I'm deaf...so I drink.
I am a parapalegiac...so I drink.
My wife/husband runs around on me...so I drink.
(applies to me) I'm fat...so I drink.
I lost my job...so I drink.....
And on and on and on.
Those are excuses, not reasons, and the drinking will continue as long as one is more comfortable wallowing in self-pity than in staying sober. All of us drunks were comfortable in our own personal little pity party until we got sick and tired of being sick and tired.
We are what we make of what we havwe to work with. OK, you husband wishes he didn't stutter. Hell, I wish your husband didn't stutter...but he does, and that is what he has to work with. He can decide (and it is a decision) to get past it, and you can decide to quit enabling him by buying into excuses, and he can have a happy sober life, or not.
Choices...we all have them. This one is yours/his.
BubbaBob