if we wish to keep our friends
we need to learn not to do that
so
if drinking is causing me to act unkind, unloving etc etc
maybe I should stop drinking ??

when most who sober up
act right for a while
(many) of their lost loved ones and friends come back around

we must remember that (many) does not necessarily mean all

yes
the wreckage of a drunks past can be painful !!