Hi Charlotte
I think we know as much as you really - I don't believe there's an alcoholic archetype.
Lots of people I know refer to the before days - lots of others do not.
I haven't really noticed any real correlation with the quality of the recoveries.
Clearly your friend has grave reservations though.
I'm not sure why they would not give you details, but would rather cut you out of their life...
This boyfriend may be a great guy, he may not.
I think any relationship involves a little trust and faith, and whether you feel it's a safe bet.
In the end it's up to you - if you have any doubts at all, I think it's perfectly fine to slow things down.
D