Javamama -- your original question was: how do you get through movies and "relaxing" time?
I don't have any good solution for movies since I am the same as you. When I watch a movie or get on the internet, that can trigger the urge to drink. My best suggestion there would be to replace those activities with something else for a while. Can you decide to relax by going for walks or by cooking, for example?
As for other times, I just posted about using an iPod. If I am up and active and doing things, I can also get the urge to drink, especially since I usually rewarded myself for completing weekly housework by getting into the vodka. Using the iPod totally distracts my brain from drinking urges. It's also more pleasant than some other methods.