Sad update. Found out that the child in question is still having trouble in school 3 years later. Basically a juvenile delinquent at this point. The relationship is all but done but all the ex's involved are apparently still frequently see each other. Child sounds confused along with a lack of a stable HOME life that doesn't require visiting the signifigant adults in their life. I guess if the mom enabled & tolerated an adults with drugs & alcohol problems she's not doing much better with her child. If alkies and addicts don't think about consequences how can they tell that to their kids-that actions/in action have consequences.