thanks Received, very much appreciated...yes, I suppose I AM already doing it.
This time around, I've really seen how much I need to re-visit not only AVRT, but my very eclectic Buddhist-related little practices....moment by moment, for much of the day.
Among many teachings, those of Pema Chodron bear constant repetition in my mind - along the lines of 'when you feel yourself getting hooked [by thoughts and bodily feelings of anxiety / anger / self-pity / irritation etc etc etc], breathe, notice them, and don't keep following the story-line.' That damned story line leads right down the rabbit hole, where our AV is happily waiting to welcome those 'kleshas' [destructive emotions / thoughts] with It's Absolute Solution of a drink....or seven.
Not an easy situation, this next few days of spending time with my very problematic Type A ex.....but, hey, talk about a perfect space in which to practice finding equanimity. For this drunk, that's almost the holy grail :-)