First of all, I feel for you cr995! I've been there. It sucks. My ex was the same. He couldn't be alone one moment. And, it was devastating to find out how he could replace me so quickly. I still love him. I wish I didn't. I can't stop forgetting how great he was when he was sober and relatively healthy. It was a great time. Now, when I see him, I see how sad he is, how tired, and spent he looks. As lillamy writes, he just can't afford that luxury car any more. And the more I try to cheapen myself for him, the more he runs away. Al-Anon and CODA help! Wish there was a meeting every day!