I agree with Peaches. At first when my AH was working his check was deposited in my account and I'd pay the bills and give him money to use for gas and whatever. It never seemed to get spent on gas so I'd end up giving him more. I got sick of it. He opened his own account and his money goes into it. His bills (cell phone and whatever) are his responsibility and he has to buy the groceries. When we go out whoever has the money usually pays. That works out well for us. I do not give him money for any reason whatsoever. It stopped me from being bitter about what he spent it on. He's not working right now and his money is almost gone. What he does for money after that is his problem, not mine. As long as my bills are paid then money is not an issue. I have also told him that if he doesn't get a job (he's currently looking and interviewing) then I'm going to have some hard decisions to make because if I'm doing it all alone then I may as well be alone.