After reading your post all I could think of was, Do you REALLY WANT to become sober? The reason I ask is because you chose the name ElegantlyWasted, you have an April 2006 Sober Recovery join date with 13 days of sobriety and you've committed (financially and emotionally) to living with a woman who has a drinking problem. It seems to me that YOUR CHOSEN ACTIONS don't support a sober life.
Please do not take this the wrong way, these are my thoughts after only reading your two little posts. I am sure there is much more to your story, but a view from another perspective might be helpful.