Dear iloveme, I believe that the strongly worded "suggestions" that the posters (including myself) are responding in a protective to what is perceived as a foreshadowing of possible danger for you. I don't believe that it is simply out of a motivation to be controlling or bossy.
Generally, when we see others that we care about to be directly in harm's way (or, possibly so), it is human nature to do straight and direct talk. For example: "Look out for that Cliff!!"......rather than.....A leisurely talk about the Law of Gravity.
Of course, we all take what works and leave the rest.
sincerely, dandylion