Painful realization
DD14 said to me the other day - through tears: "I really miss my dad. Not the one I have, but the one I wish he was."
I teared up with her. Because she had just summed up 20 years of marriage for me. I spent so many years waiting for my AXH to become the husband I wished he was. Which is about as productive as waiting for an old Honda to become a Maserati just because I want it to be.