Kaitpalen, I'm so sorry you are in so much pain. IMO, you really need to shift your focus onto yourself for a while, and do what it takes to take care of you. You can take a break from the madness with your family for a couple of days; it will still be there if you decide you want to contact them again. My family is a mess too. I think of them as a sinking ship. And I decided I wanted to get off rather than go down with it. Hugs to you.