Welcome to SR this is a great place to learn from other's experiences and to vent about the frustrations and emotional ups and downs that come with loving an addict.
You seem to have reached your breaking point with dealing with the chaos and although this is a painful time, you are doing what is best for YOU and that is important.
We can't make an addict want recovery, all we can do is set healthy boundaries and choose not to have addiction turn our lives upside down. It sounds like you have a lot of positives in your life, and it is important not to lose sight of all the great things in your life.
Keep taking care of yourself. She has chosen getting high about everything and you can decide to put yourself and your family first.