Hi,
I was screaming at my computer " You did NOT ask for it!!!" Sometimes it is the disease and sometimes they are just jerks! He has proven that he can interact with someone respectfully, he says things to hurt you and manipulate you. Don't participate in it.
I have been around this program a long time and I still get the crazies from time to time. I spent a day this weekend operating under the illusion that I could bring the Beav home after rehab and fix him right up. Because it was such an out of characture thought for me I shared it with some program friends who all separately said the same thing "ARE YOU ON DRUGS??" but in a kinder and gentler way. My crazies lasted a day...one day. I am not immune,,,I just have more experience polishing my tools.
You will get there too!
Hugs,
JT
Oh and your hubby sounds wonderful...something to be greatful for!