Ball is in his Court!
Hello everyone:
First, I would like to start off my saying thank you, merci, gracie, gracias, and again just plain old thank you to all you wonderful ladies for keeping my chin off the floor! My husband is from Italy a wonderful man who has put up with this nonsense for 30 years now. All the time this has gone on (most of which I hid from him) he has never not once gone to visit him in jail or prison, never wrote a note or sent a card, or even spoke to him on the phone. Never once did he allow my son to be disrespectful to him. In turn, my son never says anything to him and never speaks disrespectful to me in front of him. I never tell my husband how he speaks to me because he would banned him from here forever. When I go out, I leave the volume on the answering machine turned off, so if he calls and leaves one of his messages, such as "how would you like it if I came and burned your f------ house down?" he can't hear it. And he's so cute (husband) he says the phone rang but the machine it can't talk! (that's how he speaks). Anyway, he's been telling me for years to "let him go" "let him grow up" etc., but I figured he's a man and this stuff just doesn't bother him. Well, go figure, he was right all along. You ladies are right, I have to remember that I did the best I could for him. Tried everything and continue to try everything to no avail. Just now he called me and started out really nice about how difficult it is packing all his things (big move is Friday) not knowing what to take, and what to leave. I said I'll bet it is difficult, then he went off asked me if I talked to the girlfriend today, I said no (truth) he said should I believe that? I said I didn't care if he did or not, that it wasn't important. He said, pretty bad when you can't believe your own Mom! I said just as bad when Mom can't believe her son! Then he said f--- you in the a-- and I hung up! I know, I know, I asked for it! It's like everyone says, you love playing his games! However, the one thing I feel good about is the fact that I can turn things around and put the ball in his court. I am letting him go, and I start out doing it with love then he gets mean and I end up hanging up. Normally, I would call him back...not this time! Not anymore! I think he is beginning to get the idea that he "burned his bridges" with Mom. I don't know, right now I'm talking this big talk and have a lump in my throat and tears forming! I worry so much that he won't make it on the other hand, he is multi-talented and can make more money in one day than we can make in a month. Well, that's if he wants to. Hello!! he just called again this time to say he was sorry! He said he wanted to just say goodbye. I said goodbye, I love you, I believe in you, work on you! He got mad at me and hung up! Does anyone know about Meth? It's like a pattern with him. He swears he is not doing drugs. It goes like this.. he does fine (as far as temper, rage, etc.) for about 12 days. Then on the 13th day he blows! Is this one of the signs of drug abuse? Or is this part of his bipolar (that he's suppose to be taking medication for). He missed his mental health appointment yesterday because he is being monitored on these pills. I think he convinced them he was bipolar to make us all feel sorry for him so we would all give him another chance which we did by letting him continue to live in her house, but yesterday when he did the hostage thing and now he must leave! He's afraid to be on his own he says...he can't handle money....he doesn't know how to do this or that. Yet he can cook, wash, iron, good at writing checks (ask anyone)! Tell me it's going to be ok! My husband says he will survive if he wants to. Guess so but I'm sure scared! Ladies, I promise I will not ramble so much in the future, it's just because right now I'm so scared! Sorry! You all sound so together, maybe one day I will too. Hugs & Kisses to you all...Devastated :cries2: