I can relate the the feeling that I lost who I was for a long time. I decided a couple weeks ago to get "me" back. I started small, even if it was just things like renting movies I liked even if he said they were "stupid". Who cares? I like them. I went back to doing things I enjoyed and saying what I felt whether he agrees or not. I started thinking that when we started going out I was "me" and he liked it enough to get together so why did I change that. This last few weeks even with his drinking and aside from a couple little arguments, we've been happier and healthier than we had been in a long time. Both of us.