Thanks for the advice ... but a few things
Mentalty cruelty is not grounds for divorce in my state. In fact, there are very few grounds in this state, as well as most others, anymore due to the fact that divorces are so easy to obtain. Living apart for a period of six months or one year - cohabitating separately - is generally how a divorce is granted. Thus, both parties need the money to do that. And therein lies my predicament: getting the money to get out!
I went through a divorce before (same state) and believe me, unless I had the bucks to contest issues (and that DOES cost money - to about the tune of $175 an hour) I could easily walk away with the shirt on my back.
I appreciate your input, but the fact of the matter is I need a pretty good job before I can say "Hasta la vista, baby!"