Thanks SLady,
I didn't realize that was a trait of ACOA, but that makes sense, he probably had to "rescue" his parents or younger siblings. Either way, growing up that way seems to mess them up.
My husband frustrates me so much sometimes, like now. Our youngest son is about to make some serious mistakes with his life. I try to talk to him, but some times young men don't want to hear moms opinion, and I have to respect that he's 23, so technically a man, although immature. But my husband, who he really looks up to will not say anything, just that he's grown. My son looks up to him and would listen I believe, but even if not, at least he could say he tried. It's not some volatile situation, just guide your kid! Earlier today, he just spent a whole hour at least helping a friend that needed advice, with the same dumb problem...