Prodigal,
I've always found it hard to believe that you don't have any financial options, you are married.
Seek legal aid counsel.
Also some of us who have decided to fly solo have had to restock up on furniture through salvation army good will thrift shops that sort of thing.
All the psychological abuse stuff you should be writing it all down that is so important in court. You can sue for mental cruelty.
Ngaire