I am in recovery from almost 30 yrs of drug & alcohol abuse. It's becoming quite clear that my husband is a functioning alcoholic. I've asked him twice not to get tipsy or drunk around me and he can't seem to follow through. I don't want to jump to divorce, but we may need marriage counseling in the near future. I've been married 5+ years and was using the whole time up until 3+ months ago. He hated my blackouts and pot smoking. I think he feels threatened by AA, my new fellowship, and the fact that I'm becoming more functional. I used to be his kid rather than a wife.