Originally Posted by
iamthird 
TI cant do that and act like he hasnt done all these things to me. How can I heal if i never allow myself to confront what he has done to me and this family?
How can I be fighting for my life and what continues to hurt my heart the most is his abandonment? It is so odd to me. What is wrong with me??
What helped me heal from the pain of my relationship to my alcoholic was something I learned here at SR: I had to remove myself as the victim of his actions.
I did that by accepting this reality: He wasn't doing these things TO ME; he was doing these things FOR HIMSELF. (I was never the consideration ~ it was all about him)