He wants to come back and "work it out" but I can not trust him, or trust him with the kids. I just know this is going to happen again in 6 months.
No, sad to say you can not trust him.
He has
proven his unwillingness to become trustworthy.
I am recovering from alcohol.
I got the shivers when I read about him rolling the car.
I do understand how numb you feel. I have been there too, after I got sober and my ex was still using and adding crack to the mix.
Even though I
knew better, I still hoped he would stop for his children's sake.
He did not. Never did.
Keep reaching out for help from those who have been there. You now know his parents are not out to help you. It is not your job to "help" him, he is a grown man with a wife and children. He is choosing his way of life.
You choose yours and the best for your children.
So glad you are here.
Beth