My heart goes out to you! I can't add much more here than what everybody has already said. But I wanted to share with you my experience--my AH would not leave the house. So, after 6 months of telling him he had to find an apartment, DS and I moved out. He now lives in the 4 bedroom house-alone-while DS and I found a place to live, DS had to change schools etc. Was it easy? No. But the peaceful household we have now is worth EVERYTHING I had to do to get us here. Hang in there and do what you can to protect those lovely babies. Oh, and welcome! This place is a lifeline for me and all of us...keep coming back and keep us posted. Hugs.