Originally Posted by
stiney 
I want him sober, and I want him to get help (and potentially medication). He's been trying to self medicate for so long, and it has just destroyed him.
He has so much good inside of him, I know it's there, I see glimpses. But something keeps...holding him back.
Thanks again guys, I was actually able to write this without crying. So I must be feeling a little more stable.
You are not alone in wanting to bring out the positive in your partner. I too wanted to help my husband realize his full potential as husband, father and friend. I was sure I could change him into the man I knew he could be.
I was as effective in changing him as I was in teaching my cat to bark.
Recovery has taught me to focus on the here in now instead of fantasizing about Potential.
Here is a great link to a sticky post about the Potential of others (and ourselves)
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...potential.html