"he told me that I should be glad he wasn't making me go to the meetings for the wives."
That takes a lot of nerves!!! Obviously he has it twisted Al Anon is not about becoming a tolerant little "wifey", it's about empowering yourself and learning to set boundaries and not let other people's craziness drive you nuts. You should try it, chances are you'll like it and he won't like you going there LOL.