as a mom here is the ONE thing I know for SURE about parenting.....EVERY decision we make effects our children. thus EVERY decision we make should be to THEIR benefit, before our own selfish wants and needs. see our kids...they have NO choice, NO say, in what the adults charged with their care and future do. they don't get to choose what type of influences are in their lives, what they eat for dinner, where they live, what they are taught. they are the MERCY of their guardians.