Thanks everyone. I just needed other people to point out this twisted situation. I think we all know how easy it is to look at other situations and say leave or not understand how they could be with someone like that. When it's yourself it's so hard to know what is real and what they have made you believe.
BTW I have talked to a lawyer and I am a Real Estate agent so I know he can't sell our house, that is why it was so absurd.