I don't know how long you've been sober ivegotsunshine but that situation would have p;ssed me off well and truly any time, and if it is early days then you'd have every right to be annoyed at your husband making you be the DD when he was drinking so much. I had to suffer through a few drinking situations early on in my sobriety and it was hell. I was proud I got through it though, and so should you be. It's a massive achievement to stay sober when everyone else is drunk. I am okay in those situations now, but I do avoid them just because they bore the hell out of me.
In terms of being careless and free, nothing does that like being sober. There are so many things I don't have to worry about now I don't drink.
I am sorry you had such a tough time but give yourself some credit for staying sober. Hope you feel better soon, I am sure you will
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