My experience was expect the unexpected. My XAW said one thing while doing completely different things, ran up a bunch of credit cards and a bunch of financial surprises. Don't trust him, he is definitely not looking out for the best interest of the two of you, took awhile for my codie mind to wrap around that one! Best thing I did was hire an aggressive lawyer who kept my codie tendencies in check! She lets me know when I'm being too "accommodating". Now is the time to really let it sink in that you need to protect YOURSELF AND YOUR DAUGHTER and not worry about what he is doing, but keep track of what he is doing. Sending ESH to you!