I was served divorce papers the other day also. It was also a surprise. It's my fault as I hesitated and thought I could take my time. Do not trust an alcoholic! They are only out for themselves. Mine also thinks he can live in the house until the divorce is final. It's been hell. Don't procrastinate .....my husband of 37 years does not have a dime to his name. By the time he gets half of my retirement and I buy him out of the house, I will have nothing left! I will need to forget my dreams of retirement as it's not going to happen..take care of you. They're not ever going to think of you! I just had that reality slapped in my face.