Originally Posted by
Terrispots 
So then why does my stomach turn into knots and I go into a panic over it? I wonder if I am being completely irrational?
No, you're not being irrational. You know how the song and dance goes, that's why your stomach is in knots.
I agree that confronting her while she's drinking would probably do no good; it sounds like it'd amount to going and looking for trouble. If she comes out of her room and gets belligerent, that'd be a bit different. Do you think your H would be more inclined to be concerned then? Will you be able to express your concerns to him so that you can both have a plan in place if that happens?