Thanks for the reply, I have been reading and it has scared me, I know a lot of people have it A LOT worse than I do but I can see traits people are mentioning starting in him. I'm terrified because I love him to pieces and I don't want to let go but I can't live like this either. I'm a totally different person now to what I was when we met and I think I am going to seek professional help (although that is NOT going to go down well with him). Regardless of his drinking our relationship is obviously falling apart.
Thank you for the support