It's hard to shake the guilt. It's weird, cuz all I am trying to do is set a boundary and I'm not sure why that makes me feel so bad.[/QUOTE]
I can totally relate to it, still struggling with it. There's one thing I remind myself:
"Put your oxygen mask first before helping others". You have to stay sober and clear headed in order to help others. It's not selfish to set boundaries, sometimes it's the only way to save your life.
Take care.