This is exactly why I haven't chosen a sponsor yet. I haven't found the right person to suit my personality and busy life that precludes me from physically going to meetings many times a week. I work on my sobriety everyday, but need someone who understands that my obligations and travel schedule don't make me an ideal sponsee who will accompany them to meetings all the time.
Sounds like your sponsor and you don't click. I say find a new one. I know I will find mine too. And I know I won't stop looking. But it has to be right for me. And you need someone who understands you enough to realize her own behavior could compromise your sobriety (and, in reality, it did). I know she is not responsible for your picking up, but her behavior since is certainly not helpful.
Just my 2cents for what it's worth.
