Confused
I am new here. My husband started drinking when he was 15 yrs old. He is now 46 and has been sober for 6 yrs. initially he attended AA mtgs regularly & was doing relatively well. He suffered a job loss 3yrs ago and he is still sober but it seems he has just given up. He took another job for much less pay and complained ALL the time. He has a very direct way of speaking to people and this got him fired from the second job. I tied to gently let him know his tone can easily be taken the wrong way and after 11 yrs of marriage you would think i would be immuned but even i am offended by his tone at times. He took the job losses very hard as did i. I have made excuses for him since day one . After the second job loss he really put forth NO effort to find another job. A friend hooked him up with pretty good job and he totally freaked out after working at the job for a week. Both his previous jobs were day jobs very very few wk ends and i think he wasnt overwhelmed by the job i think he wants everything to be like it was when he had the first job he loved. But thats not going to happen. He has totally gotten out of his trade. His attitude sucks. He hates his current job. I never attended al anon because i felt my religious faith was strong and i could handle the recovery ups and down. So here i am 6 yrs later with a lot of resentment toward him. I have not said anything to him because i dont feel like i could talk to him without it becoming an argument. I hav found a list of mtgs and plan on attending. I try to make sure i am asleep when he comes home at nite so i dont hav to hear how bad his shift was. I feel ready to bail. His behavior seems so childish. I dont know if anyone else is going thru anything like this but i could use some guidance